Last night, two friends and me started an argument on friend love and life. These three words are used by us very frequently. We think we know their meaning properly, but when we start an argument, we end up with a number of doubts.
By friend, we normally mean a person who will be always on my side, who will help me at the time of my need. If some one stops helping, he is no more my friend.
But, helping i not a condition of Friendship. Its one of the attributes of friendship. If some one is my friend, I will help him, I can't stop myself to help him. If I don't get the call from inside me to help some one, it simply means I am not his friend. We may be knowing each other, but not friends. The same can be reversed and it can be said that, if some one does not help me at the time of my need, he is not my friend. So we should stop expecting any help from him. At the same time, we must understand one thing that, nobody can give some thing, when he does not have that. Suppose, I am in need of money, Mr.X wants to help me, but at that time he does not have money. So he can not help me. And if I still expect him to give money, I am a fool. If I end up all relation with him, then it will be a blunder.
People find many differences in friend and love. I find only one, i.e. attitude. If I keep on saying the relation is of friendship, she is my friend, If I keep on saying the relation is love, she is my love. What ever I say, what do I expect from her ?? Answer is only one, to be by my side when I need her. What I do with her ? Talk with her when ever I get time, meet her when ever I get time. So how can I differentiate between a friend and love ? When I do the same and expect the same, how friend and love are different ??
Every time I keep on asking one question what extra a girl friend will do that a friend can't do ??? Answer is nothing. But I expect more from my girl friend. I expect her to be mine and mine always. If I see some one else closer to her than me, I find the end of my love for her,. now I possess only hate for her. Remove this expectation, and the friend is always with me. Even if someone else is closer to her, still I get time with her and I enjoy the time with her.
Life is full of expectations. I expect some thing or the other from every one and every thing. When my expectations are not fruitful, I feel pain.
I expected to get more marks, but could get only 80%.... I got pain. I expected to get a better job and to earn lakhs of Rupees.... I could not get that, I got pain. I expected to get love from the most beautiful girl, she loved somebody else..... I got pain.
Suppose, I did not have expected to get more marks, I would have been the happiest getting 80% marks.. Suppose I did not have expected more money, I would have been happiest to get a job.... Suppose I did not have expected love from her, I won't have felt any pain for her.
So life has a simple attribute, Pain for expectation.
Its always very easy to write on board such big words, and when the question comes to perform, we cant devoid ourself of expectation.
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